Dealing with Difficult Clients
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If you have been in practice for any length of time, sooner or later you’re going to get stuck with a difficult client, or at least a difficult client conversation. Uncomfortable client conversations can arise for multiple reasons. Sometimes those reasons have more to do with the client than with the lawyer – but not always.

Remember – every attorney-client relationship contains two players. How might you be contributing to the problem? How can you contribute to a solution?

Take on the right clients

You could be contributing to the problem by taking on clients that aren’t right for you. Learn more about this in my video here.

The best way to deal with truly difficult clients is by not taking them on in the first place. That requires that you be able to identify potentially bad clients early – preferably before a retainer is signed so that you can avoid them entirely. Make a list of bad client warning signs to help you identify potentially difficult clients. (See this blog post for tips on identifying bad clients).

Pre-screen and pre-qualify clients by:

  • Asking the right questions
  • Educating clients about the legal process in general and your services in particular
  • Evaluating whether your firm is the right fit for the potential client.

Pay attention to what your gut is telling you when you first meet with clients – if your gut tells you the client is not right for you, don’t agree to the representation.

If you’ve already hired a client that isn’t the right fit, consider firing them.

Communicate value

You could be contributing to the problem my not communicating effectively about the value of your services and your advice.

To effectively attract and retain good clients, you must communicate the value of your services. Know what is important your potential clients and be able to differentiate yourself and your service from the others in your practice area – not just when you’re trying to attract new clients, but throughout the engagement.

Relate your services to the benefits to the client. Everything you do should be based upon the clients’ perspective – what’s in it for the client? How does each of the activities you undertake advance the client’s goals or contribute to their desired outcome?

Manage clients’ expectations

One of the biggest ways that lawyers contribute to the problem of difficult clients is by not identifying and managing the expectations of the client.

It is crucial that you discover, and help shape, the client’s expectations at the outset of the engagement, and that you continue to manage them throughout the engagement. Years ago, Justice Carole Curtis wrote an article entitled, “How to Handle Difficult Clients,” in the American Bar Association’s Law Practice Magazine. In that article, Justice Curtis noted that clients have expectations not just about results, but also about service, time and costs.

If the client’s perception of ‘service’ is something more or different than what you provide, the client will always be dissatisfied, regardless of how good your work is. It’s your job to manage expectations in each of these areas.

For more tips on managing clients’ expectations, see my post Tips for Managing Client Expectations on the Legal Ease Blog.

Know your boundaries and set limits

Confrontations arise when the unexpected occurs.

You can reduce many common difficult client situations by being prepared and setting boundaries at the outset of the engagement. Tell clients what you expect of them and what their responsibilities are. Let them know how and when you typically communicate, who to contact if they have questions, and how.

Clients who can’t abide by your processes or boundaries will often self-identify themselves, offering you the opportunity to explore the situation before a confrontation occurs or the chance to decline the representation. There’s no reason to tolerate an abusive client!

Provide excellent service

Some clients don’t start out difficult, but they become difficult as the engagement progresses. One reason for that is that the lawyer is busy, overwhelmed, or distracted, and doesn’t provide the client with the service the client expects or deserves.

Keep the client updated about what’s happening with the case. Don’t make clients ask you for a status; be proactive and provide regular updates, even when nothing is happening.

If you need to make a staffing change on the file, give the client a heads-up; don’t wait until the client receives a bill with a new attorney’s name on it or receives a phone call from a new attorney in your office they don’t know.

Always present your best work; even if it’s just a draft, it should be free of spelling and grammatical errors, typos and other problems. Always accompany copies of documents or decisions in the client’s matter with a plain language explanation of what the document is and how it affects the client’s case.

Recognize that the client may not always agree with the course of action you think is best. Explain how the different options might advance the client’s stated goals and give your insight about consequences and potential pitfalls, but remember that ultimately, it’s the client’s job to choose the course of action. Document these conversations or follow up in writing.

Under-promise and over-deliver, keeping the four areas of client expectation (results, service, time, and cost) in mind.

Bill appropriately

Client problems or complaints can also arise out of disputes about or confusion over fees. Don’t nickel and dime your clients by charging them for items that constitute part of your overhead and should already be factored into your fees. Make sure your fees are fair and reasonable. If there is a change in your budget, big expenditures that need to be made, or if unexpected costs arise, advise the client as soon as you become aware of the change; don’t wait until the funds have already been expended or simply add it to your bill without discussing it with the client first.

Obtain client feedback

Sometimes clients get frustrated because they feel they are not being heard, or that they are not being consulted enough throughout the engagement. But they may not always tell you.

A client who doesn’t complain isn’t necessarily a happy client. And even happy clients may have additional needs that you could address.

Obtain feedback throughout the engagement and upon its conclusion and act on that feedback when you receive it. Make it part of your process.

Handling Difficult Client Conversations

Even if you have done all of the above, you may still won’t be able to avoid difficult clients or difficult client conversations entirely. Even generally good or cooperative clients can become difficult at times, especially when you have to tell them something they don’t want to hear, or when they have a complaint.

Sometimes conflict arises because clients don’t feel understood. Even business clients have an emotional investment in their legal matter, and many legal matters have high stakes, affecting clients’ finances, livelihoods, businesses, or their very lives. If you can guide the conversation in a way that makes clients feel understood, the conversation will run much more smoothly.

When you find yourself in a situation that requires a difficult conversation with clients, keep these tips in mind:

Mirror the client’s concerns. Let the client tell you what the issue is, and then reflect it back to the client. This way, the client knows they’re being heard, and you ensure that you understand their issue.

Focus on the client. The key to resolution is concentrating on the client’s feelings and the client’s desired outcome, instead of focusing on yourself, the work you have already done, or additional work that may be required. For example, if a client asks for something in a rush, respond by first acknowledging the client’s sense of urgency and how it affects their goals – not by telling them how much work you have to do or why what they’re asking is impossible. Then work together to find a resolution.

Lay the groundwork for bad news – and go slowly. Resist the urge to just ‘get it over with’ by blurting out the bad news all at once. When you know the client isn’t going to be happy about what you have to tell them, start out by acknowledging the client’s desired outcome or goals, introduce what you are going to discuss, or explain that there are a number of different strategies that can be employed to move forward with their matter. Be sure to give the client reasons for those options and explain what occurred. After you’ve delivered the bad news, let the client know that you empathize with their position.

Acknowledge the client’s feelings. Acknowledging a client’s feelings by saying something like, “I can tell that you’re upset about this” will begin to defuse the situation. Don’t let yourself get emotional or allow the client to push your buttons and don’t argue with clients about their feelings, whether you believe they are justified or not; you won’t change their mind and you are likely to make the situation worse.

Let clients know that they’re not alone. Some problems and frustrations are common ones, and they may not be in your control. For example, the Court’s delay in making a decision, or opposing counsel’s refusal to provide documents.

If this particular problem is a common one, let the client know that their feelings are valid, and that they have been expressed by others as well. If you are similarly frustrated, let the client know; it can be a way of getting you and your client back on the same side.

Consider warning clients about these potential problems in advance, so that they are prepared. For example, if the court typically doesn’t decide motions for 60 days after they are submitted, let the client know in advance that you don’t expect a response before then.

Work toward a resolution based on where you are now. Once the client is calmer and you’ve acknowledged them, you can begin to gather information that can help you to reach a solution to the underlying problem. Offer the client options for resolution, even if you can’t meet their specific demand.

Focus on the positive. Instead of saying no or telling a client what you can’t do and why, tell them what you can do. Explain the options in terms of the client’s goals (i.e. because I know that you don’t want to drag this litigation out…” or “Since you want to keep costs down…”

Don’t retreat or get defensive – it only escalates the confrontation.

Get help. While these suggestions may seem simple, they’re not always easy to implement. Working with a coach or getting some client service training can help you develop the skills to handle difficult client situations.

Do you need help identifying bad clients or weeding them out? Do you want some training on dealing with difficult clients? Contact me for a consultation.

A version of portions of this article originally appeared on JD Supra.  

12 thoughts on “Dealing with Difficult Clients”

  1. Alison,

    These are terrific suggestions. They illustrate the benefit of applying “mediation” skills in resolving and avoiding disputes even (and especially) where there is no mediator involved.

    Lisa

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  2. All lawyers are parasites, I have dealt with scores of them in my businesses life, all they are interested in are their fees. After forty years of businesses I met only one lawyer with any integrity. The opposing party are less of a concern than your own side horrible people and so called profession. The law is an extortion racket of epic proportions, they are in the ‘conflict business,’ with legals on both sides doing everything in their power to run up fees and expenses to their clients.
    Legalised ‘Pirates.’

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    • I’m sorry that you feel that way. I have worked with and been friendly with hundreds of lawyers over the years and find most of the ones I’ve known or worked with to have been hard-working, wonderful people with integrity who only want to do what’s best for their clients.

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    • In my former life, when I was actually practicing law, I routinely would not accept representation of any client that spoke in absolutes, i.e. “All lawyers are parasites.” I would suggest other lawyers still in practice do the same.

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  3. Please take down this discriminatory material. It amounts to bullying people who may be unwell, been in an accident, be prescribed bad medicine etc.

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    • There is nothing in this article or the articles that it references that is meant to be discriminatory or bullying in any way. In fact, this article acknowledges that many difficult lawyer-client relationships are the fault of the lawyer, not the client. The article provides communication and client selection tips to help lawyers to communicate better and provide better service to their clients, while also acknowledging that not every client is the right fit for every lawyer. Lawyers who can identify clients who are not the right fit for their practice can help clients get more appropriate and effective representation or help than that particular lawyer can provide.

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